It's Not Always About You

A lot of people are selfish without even knowing. Especially when it comes to the struggles of others. Take the "friends and family" of suicidal and depressed people. These people are struggling to even make it through the day. Constantly told how sad someone would be or how disappointed if they took they their life. What others around them fail to understand is that its not about how YOU would feel if they were gone, but how they feel and have been feel ing why they see death as their only resort. These people fight countless demons daily and some day are harder than others. They don't pull away and seclude themselves for attention, they do it so they can focus on themselves and quiet the thoughts tormenting them. So for you to tell them that they "cant" do what they need to do because YOU need is really just you saying that what THEY need for peace within themselves is far less important that what you want for your selfish sense of peace. Sure, you may feel like you've lost them, but at the same time, they've gained something they just couldn't feel while they were alive; a sense of relief. And before you even start, you can miss me with whole "if you commit suicide you're going to hell" bullshit. All that is is more guilt trip tactics to keep people here for the benefit of others against their will. Maybe suicide isn't the answer for EVER problem but for most people it was a last resort, not the first. They exhausted all their other "options" and felt there was nothing else they could possibly do. Sometimes counseling isn't enough. Talking to friends or family isn't enough. Medication isn't enough. Sometimes NOTHING at all feels like enough and they don't think there's anything else they can do. But to guilt them into feeling worse than they already do because YOU Cant handle losing them is the most self centered shit you can do. Im not saying act like you dont care because "they're just gonna do it anyway"; I'm actually saying the opposite. SHOW them That you care and you'll be there for them until the end no matter when it comes. Suicidal or not it still feels good to KNOW the people who say they care actually do care. I'm not saying this as someone who feels they know everything about everything, but as someone who's deals w depression and has been suicidal before, i'm only speaking from my point of view.